Emptying The Vessel

A friend of mine received a beautiful bouquet of roses the other night from a gentleman she was going out to dinner with. I had a nice glass vase for her to put the flowers in but it had been sitting for a while so there was residue of dirt, mud and dust on the bottom of it. As I began to run water into the vase to clean it, the dirt inside created mud. It took a few minutes before the glass container cleared up enough to complete the wash and then add fresh water for the roses. Have you ever attempted to put something into a full or even dirty cup, vessel or pot of some kind without cleaning it first? I’d like you to consider that many of us do this with our emotional energy all the time.

When you are seeking to add goodness to your life but you haven’t taken the time to completely heal from some damaged version of yourself, then the most that you can get is the mess mingled in with the fresh. When this happens we experience what many of us refer to as drama. This is particularly true in our relationships whether it’s with co-workers, family members and even our love mates. Let me give you an example of what I am talking about.

I had a client that really wanted to find his life partner. His biggest complaint was that women he dated were insecure, needy and possessive. So after a couple of coaching sessions I asked him if he had any of these qualities within himself. He resounded with a loud, “Not at all.” He then began to give me evidence of how successful his life had been in the creation of money, business, material possessions and his exotic lifestyle. When I asked him if he openly shared his business success with any of the women he had dated in the past, he said, “I don’t think they would be able to handle it.” And there in lies the “red flag”.

Many times the relationships we experience in our childhood with the adult members of our family tend to color the way we view the opposite sex. If our mothers were bossy, overbearing, needy or possessive with the father, then men tend to make up in their minds that women can’t be true partners. The same is true with women who grow up without fathers; they tend to make up that men will always leave. Both of these cases are held as truth in the hearts of the individuals so all they ever experience is the outcome of their beliefs.

Now just suppose we are able to create a paradigm shift which allows our parents to be in the perfect relationship they were in with their spouse regardless if they stayed together or not. Imagine that they subconsciously chose the partners they were with based on what they needed to experience for their spiritual growth? When we are able to observe where people are without drawing conclusions about “why” they are, this will give us more room to integrate the lessons of love that we are to learn from our childhood relationships.

For each of us to experience life in the present moment we must attempt to release old beliefs, patterns and thoughts that keep us from having what we desire. We have to empty the vessel so that the good stuff can get in. Otherwise, we tend to only attract the same people and situations over and over until we learn to integrate the love lessons that are strongly leading us to love unconditionally whether or not our parents have learned to do so or not.

Your first thought is probably, “that is easier said than done,” and I would definitely agree with you. However, when you begin the practice of examining yourself in light of outdated beliefs, thoughts and patterns you will get in touch with your true authentic self who is completely unlike anyone you have ever known. You will experience the joy of being someone exciting, different and creative without always insisting that what you are doing is “right”. Many people do the same thing over and over again to prove that what they are doing is the way it should be done, whether it is working for them or not. They are always looking to say, “See, I told you this would work.” And in the meantime, they have missed many amazing opportunities to grow, expand and contribute to a vibrant world that can only be experienced and not captured.

Breathe into your stomach then slowly exhale, now look to see what beliefs or patterns you are holding on to that are no longer serving you. Are you willing to let them go? Are you willing to experience the best version of yourself? Are you open to being in the flow of your highest good? When you make it a regular practice to “empty your vessel”, your life will become more meaningful and far more adventurous than you could have ever imagined. And when someone gives you roses you can put them in a clear glass vessel where their true beauty will be transparent to all.

Take a moment to view this presentation it will assist you in your efforts to empty.

http://prezi.com/w7u8ngdlga2c/

~~ Love and Light

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Those eViL pEoPle

Growing up in a household of females where each one of them had issues of self-esteem, money troubles, man problems and PMS, being the youngest, I received more than my share of grief and abuse. As a matter of fact in my twenties when I began doing work to heal my soul from the trauma of my childhood, every memory I had reminded me that no one loved me. I searched long and hard for just one clue that I was cared for, and it did not exist within my family circle. At the age of 28 I ran across a book by M. Scott Peck called, The People of The Lie: The Healing of Human Evil.

The People of The Lie, discussed the phenomenon of evil from the position of psychiatric medicine, since Dr. Peck himself was a psychotherapist by trade. He pointed out in his work that evil people have a tendency to be lazy by nature. They refuse to do anything that is outside of what they are already doing for themselves. The official definition he gives for evil is the “unwillingness to extent one’s Self for the benefit of another person”. Can you already see who the main victims are for evil people? Of course, it would be those who are unable to take care of themselves. In our society, that would be children, animals and some elderly persons.

Do you ever notice parents have children an make strong attempts to have them conform to their lifestyle, their plans, their agenda, and their thinking? Yet, as soon as the child is old enough to challenge these directions they become a burden (this usually happens around the age of 2). Many parents are unwilling to allow children to expand the parent’s capacity to nurture, love and serve. Usually parents don’t think about serving the child. If only we could see the honor attached to serving a young body, whose spirit has returned to Earth to continue on a mission they were unable to a complete during a previous lifetime. Imagine the love we would find in ourselves if we allowed our own hearts to expand in the exposure of new ideas, adventures and imaginary happenings. So we narrow our participation to work, discipline and providing for the material necessities in life.

Now I am not saying that parents should not be concerned with making sure the material comforts of living are provided. However, it has been my observation that we have been so consumed with our material existence, that we don’t bother with the spiritual and emotional nurturing of ourselves; and for sure not fpr our children. I find it somewhat a lost opportunity for bonding when young babies have to be put into childcare that is not the parent, grandparent or other loving family members. I have a concern about this because evil people tend to lurk around those who are easy to abuse and dominate. The only intention of evil people is to put the light out, damper the spirit of those that are too happy and joyful in life.

Dr. Peck says in his book, that evil people do not want to be shown their own darkness or the constricted places in their heart, therefore they work to dominate and control those individual’s whose light shine on their evil ways. And the only way we can assist individuals in this mindset is to love them. Imagine that, love is the healing anecdote for evil people. When I got to that part of the book I was able to realize that the evil encounters I had experienced in life had actually taught me how to love and be more loving. It took several more years before I was clear about how to love my Self. However, I have also been able to see that both evil and loving people are attracted to the light. So if you are a spiritually conscious person, be mindful that you will attract evil people and it may seem like they are trying to destroy you, and it isn’t personal. This is their way of being. They don’t know any other way to live their life; this is what they have been taught and what they currently know. So if you allow them the opportunity to be in your space and see how you operate, they actually have a chance to learn more about living spiritually.

Anytime a person tell me they believe in God, I can see the degree to which they operate in that belief by how they love and be loved by others. God, spiritual essence, is all about love and nothing else. So to be evil to someone because they were evil to you, is not a loving way to be, nor is it healthy for you. If you don’t have the capacity to be around such people I suggest that you stay clear away from them. As a matter of reference, studies have noted that negative people have far more influence on positive people than positive people have on negative people.

Before I end this blog, let me be responsible in saying that everyone that has a negative attitude or a negative disposition is not necessarily evil. There are clear factors that demonstrate evil tendencies – (1) Laziness (2) Unwillingness to extend one’s self for the benefit of another (3) Selfishness (4) Pretence – which is why they are called “people of the lie.”

If you are experiencing issues with evil in your own life let me suggest that you read The People of The Lie, and then send me an email so that I can assist you in processing this information for your own spiritual development. We are not here to change others we can only change ourselves. Subsequently, if we want to make a difference in the life of others, we are to be the example of love.

Thank you for reading my blog and I look forward to our expansion and an increase in our flow.

Hetep!

~~ Mu Shemsu-t
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