Showing posts with label coaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label coaching. Show all posts

Friday, August 17, 2012

'Awaken To Your Twin Flame - Part Two


"Lovers do not finally meet somewhere ~They are in each other all along." -- Rumi


"Is your heart open, light and accepting?"

We started this conversation more than 18 months ago, when I was personally thrust into what seemed like a centrifugal  force of emotional, spiritual and leadership expansion.  The Universe was clearly moving me into a space, to acknowledge where I needed to be,  which is the path of service and authentic self-expression.  During this period of time, it has been eye opening, while surrendering to exotic depths of joy and enthusiasm for life; indulging, without losing my sense of self.  So now, as we look at the next points of this conversation, I have even more compassion for those of us who are intertwined with our Twin Flames, and also those of us who are still seeking to find them. May we continue . . .


4.  Your Heart Must Be Open - Many of us have had the opportunity to meet some pretty amazing people in our lives. Many of those connections were with our SOUL MATES, who assist us in touching base with our inner denial, and helping to stir our internal flame.  How many times has your lover made you believe they were the one?  Only to find out, that the relationship was mostly superficial and lustful to say the least.  However, we had to make their acquaintance, to begin a journey to deal with the emotional issues we needed to resolve from our childhood, and for many of us, our past lives.

As African-Americans, we have so many layers that we must recover from, for us to begin to realize that we are love.  Unfortunately, we have been taught to seek validation from outside ourselves.  We place our value on things and people, that have no sense of who we are, as a person.  Subsequently, very few of us have spent time dealing with matters of the heart. According to an article written by Norma Hicks, there are 12 levels of the heart that we must awaken; and right now, most of us are just at the 3rd and 4th levels - (http://www.esotericonline.net/profiles/blogs/levels-of-the-fourth-chakra). As we move through this Earth Plane, we are learning more about what it actually means to be a participant in this thing called life. And as we partner with our Twin Flames, we have the opportunity to automatically enhance our capacity to grow and expand, into the next version of our highest self.

5. Building Together - As you read the points in this article, you can see by now that what is most prevalent about meeting our Twin Flame, has to do with the work we can get done together, in a much easier and more efficient manner.  Let us not be mistaken about what this work looks like.  We are not here to see how many houses we can build, or how much money we can make or how many children we can have.  Our work is about the Soul, and the Soul is all about Love.  

I rarely meet couples that radiate love.  It seems like they want to demonstrate how beautiful they look together, or how obedient their children are, or how polished their home and furnishing appear; yet nothing of this has to do with being love. The true essence of love, doesn't need anything, it just is.

In this case, the building we are emphasizing, has to do with the work that we can do inside our family, our community, our society, as well as taking care of Mother Earth. These are the aspects of living, that have been neglected over time. Now, we have the presence of mind to join forces and remember who we are and why we are here in the first place.


6. Free To Be - The energy of Twin Flames operate from a base of one, therefore, if we have worked through our own emotional wounds, we wouldn't have to possess, control and dominate our relationships.  It has been my experience that many Twin Flames tend to meet when they have are already in a relationship. They tend to start out being confused, as to why they would meet someone when they are already with a life partner.

When this happens, there is a very wonderful opportunity to work out what is best for all parties involved.  It's a chance to demonstrate delayed gratification, consideration and kindness, which are all higher aspects of our personality.  When we are able to pull back and truly look at situations and weight the outcomes, only then can we truly get past the lower energy vibrations, that keep us locked in the bottom regions of our chakras.

Granting others their own personal freedom is the hallmark of Twin Flame relationships. Simply because, it is natural that every single time, they will find a way to be with one another.  And even still, it takes time to mature into the space of true freedom, where love is concerned.  Therefore, take your time and be patient with yourself and the development of the relationship.



[Next Article: "Awaken to Your Twin Flame" - Part Three. We will embark on points 7-10.]

If you are currently experiencing any heartache, or emotional distress regarding a breakdown in your relationship, here are a few remedies to help you balance your energy and your emotions.

  • St. Johns Wort Tea is a herbal infusion that will help to bring your energy up and relieve any feelings of sadness or depression.  You can usually find it any place that you find healing teas and herbs.
  • Bach Flower Remedies - Pine to deal with regret, resentment and forgiveness and Agrimony which relates to the ability to feel joyfulness and the enhance your ability to confront others.  You can find these products at any health food store or online.
  • Talk to someone that can be objective and listen for your need to release and expand.
  • I highly recommend the book, "Spiritual Partnerships" by Gary Zukav

Thank you for reading my blog.  Love and Light to you . . . We are ascending!


Rita Stewart/Mu Shemsu-t
Executive Life Coach
mut@masterforceinc.com
773-969-6211

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Emptying The Vessel


A friend of mine received a beautiful bouquet of roses the other night from a gentleman she was going out to dinner with. I had a nice glass vase for her to put the flowers in but it had been sitting for a while so there was residue of dirt, mud and dust on the bottom of it. As I began to run water into the vase to clean it, the dirt inside created mud. It took a few minutes before the glass container cleared up enough to complete the wash and then add fresh water for the roses. Have you ever attempted to put something into a full or even dirty cup, vessel or pot of some kind without cleaning it first? I’d like you to consider that many of us do this with our emotional energy all the time.

When you are seeking to add goodness to your life but you haven’t taken the time to completely heal from some damaged version of yourself, then the most that you can get is the mess mingled in with the fresh. When this happens we experience what many of us refer to as drama. This is particularly true in our relationships whether it’s with co-workers, family members and even our love mates. Let me give you an example of what I am talking about.

I had a client that really wanted to find his life partner. His biggest complaint was that women he dated were insecure, needy and possessive. So after a couple of coaching sessions I asked him if he had any of these qualities within himself. He resounded with a loud, “Not at all.” He then began to give me evidence of how successful his life had been in the creation of money, business, material possessions and his exotic lifestyle. When I asked him if he openly shared his business success with any of the women he had dated in the past, he said, “I don’t think they would be able to handle it.” And there in lies the “red flag”.

Many times the relationships we experience in our childhood with the adult members of our family tend to color the way we view the opposite sex. If our mothers were bossy, overbearing, needy or possessive with the father, then men tend to make up in their minds that women can’t be true partners. The same is true with women who grow up without fathers; they tend to make up that men will always leave. Both of these cases are held as truth in the hearts of the individuals so all they ever experience is the outcome of their beliefs.

Now just suppose we are able to create a paradigm shift which allows our parents to be in the perfect relationship they were in with their spouse regardless if they stayed together or not. Imagine that they subconsciously chose the partners they were with based on what they needed to experience for their spiritual growth? When we are able to observe where people are without drawing conclusions about “why” they are, this will give us more room to integrate the lessons of love that we are to learn from our childhood relationships.

For each of us to experience life in the present moment we must attempt to release old beliefs, patterns and thoughts that keep us from having what we desire. We have to empty the vessel so that the good stuff can get in. Otherwise, we tend to only attract the same people and situations over and over until we learn to integrate the love lessons that are strongly leading us to love unconditionally whether or not our parents have learned to do so or not.

Your first thought is probably, “that is easier said than done,” and I would definitely agree with you. However, when you begin the practice of examining yourself in light of outdated beliefs, thoughts and patterns you will get in touch with your true authentic self who is completely unlike anyone you have ever known. You will experience the joy of being someone exciting, different and creative without always insisting that what you are doing is “right”. Many people do the same thing over and over again to prove that what they are doing is the way it should be done, whether it is working for them or not. They are always looking to say, “See, I told you this would work.” And in the meantime, they have missed many amazing opportunities to grow, expand and contribute to a vibrant world that can only be experienced and not captured.

Breathe into your stomach then slowly exhale, now look to see what beliefs or patterns you are holding on to that are no longer serving you. Are you willing to let them go? Are you willing to experience the best version of yourself? Are you open to being in the flow of your highest good? When you make it a regular practice to “empty your vessel”, your life will become more meaningful and far more adventurous than you could have ever imagined. And when someone gives you roses you can put them in a clear glass vessel where their true beauty will be transparent to all.

Take a moment to view this presentation it will assist you in your efforts to empty.

http://prezi.com/w7u8ngdlga2c/

~~ Love and Light

www.mushemsut.com