Monday, October 11, 2010

10 Ways to UnBully Our Children



Maybe the reason some of our children are attracting bully situations to themselves is because of the lack of love and self-acceptance they feel within. As parents and care takers of young souls it is imperative that we give them a clear picture of acceptance and self-worth, that is not based on them living up to our expectations.

These young souls are not here to please us, they are on a mission from God and part of their course is to teach us as adults how to love and be loved. Subsequently, to protect our own children from bullies, we need to first stop bullying them ourselves. Here are a few suggestions to assist us in eradicating these bully issues:

1. Treat your children the way you want to be treated.

2. Notice if you have a habitual way of being angry or resentful with your child.  Clean that up within yourself.

3. When you see your children, be present to love and appreciation as much as you can.  Coming from here always makes the relationship more peaceful and alluring.

4. Listen carefully and from the second level when your young person speaks to you.  What is the intention behind their words?  What are they not saying? How can you assist them?

5. Release yourself from any co-dependency you may have with your children.  This is especially true and challenging for single mothers.

6. It isn’t necessary for your children to live up to your expectations for their life, however it is quite helpful if we can assist them in finding their true life purpose and why they came through us in the first place.

7. If your child is angry and resentful look to determine if the stress is being created from your relationship with them. Do what you can to bring peace and balance to your home life.

8. Assist your child in finding inner security from the time that you spend together instead of from the things you give to them. Meditation is a good practice to do together, even if it’s only for 10 minutes once a week.

9. 10 years from now it really isn’t going to matter what grades your child has earned, unless of course you aren’t sharing time and love with them now.

10. Release your fears and allow your child to live and explore life on their terms.  Send them forward in divine light and protection.

~~ Love and Light!

Mu Shemsu-t
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